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My Big Sister, My Mentor...My Friend!

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I am a middle child, we are an all girls' army, so I have an elder sister and a younger one. This post will be about the elder one, the first friend I ever knew and the one human being I was closest to for a very long time next to my mum. Having being born not many years after her, she has always been my age mate, she took care of me when my mum was taking care of other things, she fed me and tried to tolerate me, because I was anything but. We have very different characters, I am yet to decipher hers, because she tends to change according to situations (i need to ask her this one) On the other hand, I have always been an introvert. This was clear from the early years when I was a toddler. I liked being in a corner by myself, or with my sister, or my mum. That was it, I didn't like going out to play with my sister. She was the complete opposite, she was energetic and all she could do was play, she loved it, she had friends, she loved leading and initiating, she was a lit...
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Boarding School...Part 2!

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Thank you all for your patience, this took longer than expected. During the wait, I got to hear a boarding school tale from a close friend, one that I had not heard nor experienced before, so the wait paid! It was in high school. Students were given mattresses upon reporting to school in form one. The new students' mattresses would be exchanged for older ones by the older students. They ended up with old, thin and worn out mattresses (obviously), while the older students had all the new and good mattresses. Unfortunately, most of the old mattresses were half or quarter mattresses. Very old and torn, they had seen better days and probably their first users were somewhere in a homestead accompanied by their fathers trying to convince someone's father that their daughter is worth a few number of goats. In short they were grown men who had been convinced by society that all they needed to be 'whole' was a woman in their home. 😂😂 Anyway...so back to the new studen...
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Boarding School Part 1

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I have been thinking about this post for a long time. Almost all of my teenage years were spent in boarding schools. I have loads of memories, some sad, some good and some ridiculous. It was a mixture of the good, the bad and the ugly. My dad never wanted me to go to boarding school, I could not understand why since my elder sister was already there. I pleaded with him every single Sunday morning. Why Sunday you ask? Every Sunday morning we had to go wake him up and ask for sadaka 'church offering'. Looking back, it must have been annoying ☺. I love my Sunday mornings since they are the only days I get to sleep in....so here I was, tiny little fingers shaking him awake to ask for church offering and asking, 'Daddy when are you taking me to boarding school??' I was stubborn and nagging. He finally threw in the towel and away I went to boarding school. I was ten years old, young and naive. I thought boarding school was cool, I thought my sister was so sophistic...
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Bras & Boobs :)

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Well, we all know what those are :) We all have boobs (even men) but not everyone needs a bra for them. So in this post...let's focus on women and bras. Girls and bras sound nicer but we are about inclusion....so women and bras it is. Boobs are a very important part of our anatomy. The relationship with our boobs is mostly complicated but with time and age we come to love them and appreciate them as they are (even as we wear push up bras)....we still appreciate them. I call mine my girls because that's what they are; and I love them...most of the time anyway.    These girls come in sizes. Most are sisters, not twins. There are never two that are alike, never. One is always bigger or tilted further away than the other one; one is happier and more fulfilled with life than the other one, sometimes one is introverted and needs more nudging to be stimulated while the other one is always ready to party...you get the picture ;) So, then comes the hardest part; br...
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BOOKS!!

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It's been ages since I posted anything. I have not been busy....I am just living my life a day at a time. I have also been dedicating a lot of time to reading. I love books, but it reached a point where i rarely had time to read, i was either working, sleeping or too exhausted to function so I would just be on my couch watching my favorite YouTube programs  and series. I do not have TV...well, I have a screen but i do not pay the monthly subscription fee, so I get all my entertainment online. So, i started reading and I can say that I am doing very very well. My favourite reads so far have been Diane Von Furstenberg's The Woman I wanted to be. I didn't know about Diane until I watched a reality TV show (back when I had TV subscription) that was about getting a brand ambassador for House of DVF. I was fascinated by her and I immediately googled and read all I could find about her. I had a crush....like I always do whenever I engage in any form of media where there is a suc...
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This is my beautiful.....I WAS BORN THIS WAY!!

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First off...I have to write this fast enough before I start having contradicting views in my head and end up not doing it....it happens. I am scrolling through Instagram and I come across a post by the beautiful Taraji P. Henson. It is a short clip titled 'Afro Art' and it showcases different beautiful girls adorning their equally beautiful Afros (too many 'beautiful' in one paragraph...but then....beautiful). The clip is aimed at inspiring girls to embrace their naturals hair. It's quite a peace of work, skillfully done and the shots are amazing. When I watched the clip, I was sad. Sad because we are still living in this world where human beings have refused to accept the fact that we are all different. We were created differently. No human being is similar to the other. Our differences have been used time and again to discriminate, intimidate and pass our own selfish agendas. Our looks and genetic makeup should be a non-issue in this time and error. So you h...
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LIFE'S A NOT A BEACH...

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I think I have written it before....if not i will write it sometime in the future. I had a hard time growing up, i can't claim I had a normal childhood. I was exposed to too much pain, too fast. I was scarred. This has been part of my adulthood, my childhood. I think of myself as a very strong and resilient woman, and I have no doubt about that....but those scars, those scars bleed. Maybe more often that they should. Sometimes I feel like I can actually feel the blood trickling from them. They are still raw. On my best days, I can't feel them, I am care free and very happy. But on the bad days, they hurt, over and over again. My soul feels like it has been stabbed in so many places and locked in a very dark place. I hate such days. All this has left me very sensitive, emotionally. There seems too be a well of tears in my eyes that never dry up. The simplest of things makes me break down involuntarily. It can be a hug, a family reunion, a happy couple, sad scenes, a crying bab...
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