HOW TO GET OVER A BREAK-UP
I wear my heart on my sleeve, i have always done that. I have been cautioned by my family and friends....but it is not a choice i make, it just happens naturally. I find myself giving 100%; i love passionately and deeply. This makes break ups very hard. I have had several already, but i never learn..... 'been there done that, been there once more; because apparently, i never learn'.
Well, i will do it all over again....until the day I will find my 'the one'. I always enter into a relationship with the goal being, he just might be the one. So i enjoy it while it lasts, the ups and the downs, the friendship.....i always enjoy the journey. Getting to know someone is an interest for me and i actually enjoy it.
I am single at the moment, so none of my relationships have been successful. They have been so insightful however and i have never regretted any one of them. The shortest has lasted a little over one year while the longest has lasted, well, years. A time comes when things happen and everything comes to an end. This always hits me hard. It was harder the first time, but I have had to develop thick skin, because we will always lose people around us; sometimes friends, relatives,parents, siblings......it is a volatile world. I remember the time my dad passed on in 2008. I thought the world would stop, i thought i would never see the lights of dawn. i thought i will never be able to smile or be happy again.....all my thoughts were wrong.
The world moved on. I moved on. I have learned to move on.
Apart from the loss of a loved one; break ups are easier to get through.
1. I avoid confrontation. That moment when i feel like i need to say a million words, shout at him and possibly punch him; i never do, but I always cry, i do. This heart of mine is so fragile.
2. I then remind myself of how good i am, how sexy i am, my strengths, my humour.....i go deep inside myself and find the person i am, and that comforts me.
3. I talk about it...no i wrant, i bitch, that's when i have all the tissues and chocolates and all the comfort i need. In between the sobs, i remember the good times, and laugh at the stupid times, i talk about his bad habits, his shortcomings, this is always such a relief.
4. At times like this, my favourite things aren't as exciting, but i do them anyway. I listen to music, loudly. Nothing soft and romantic. I listen to hip hop, ragga, reggae, rock.....anything that will not speak to the heart.
5. I embark on a project, that trip i had postponed, the new wardrobe i have been thinking about, that class i really wanted to attend, the new joint i have always wanted to try, those new girls that have been inviting me for coffee every other day.....i do them all.
6. I try and lose contact with that particular person, i avoid their circles and even lose their numbers. I will unfriend them on fb and unfollow on IG and twitter. I try and get as disconnected from them as possible.
7. I cry some more
8. I treat myself to something nice, a handbag, a sexy pair of heels, a manicure.....anything to elevate my spirits
9. I hang out with the happy and careless crowd. At this time my confidence is always inside my shoe and such crowds uplift me
10. I will actually go out on a date with that cute boy who is so sweet and has been pestering me for ages. I need the compliments and a good time. I need someone to remind me how great i am
11. A good lipstick, a nice pair of sunglasses or just glasses, good hair......this makes everything much easier.
12. I take time to reflect and think things out, this includes accepting that we have broken up......and that there are millions of single men around the globe :)
13. I cry again and try not to feel sorry for myself. :)
Well, i will do it all over again....until the day I will find my 'the one'. I always enter into a relationship with the goal being, he just might be the one. So i enjoy it while it lasts, the ups and the downs, the friendship.....i always enjoy the journey. Getting to know someone is an interest for me and i actually enjoy it.
I am single at the moment, so none of my relationships have been successful. They have been so insightful however and i have never regretted any one of them. The shortest has lasted a little over one year while the longest has lasted, well, years. A time comes when things happen and everything comes to an end. This always hits me hard. It was harder the first time, but I have had to develop thick skin, because we will always lose people around us; sometimes friends, relatives,parents, siblings......it is a volatile world. I remember the time my dad passed on in 2008. I thought the world would stop, i thought i would never see the lights of dawn. i thought i will never be able to smile or be happy again.....all my thoughts were wrong.
The world moved on. I moved on. I have learned to move on.
Apart from the loss of a loved one; break ups are easier to get through.
1. I avoid confrontation. That moment when i feel like i need to say a million words, shout at him and possibly punch him; i never do, but I always cry, i do. This heart of mine is so fragile.
2. I then remind myself of how good i am, how sexy i am, my strengths, my humour.....i go deep inside myself and find the person i am, and that comforts me.
3. I talk about it...no i wrant, i bitch, that's when i have all the tissues and chocolates and all the comfort i need. In between the sobs, i remember the good times, and laugh at the stupid times, i talk about his bad habits, his shortcomings, this is always such a relief.
4. At times like this, my favourite things aren't as exciting, but i do them anyway. I listen to music, loudly. Nothing soft and romantic. I listen to hip hop, ragga, reggae, rock.....anything that will not speak to the heart.
5. I embark on a project, that trip i had postponed, the new wardrobe i have been thinking about, that class i really wanted to attend, the new joint i have always wanted to try, those new girls that have been inviting me for coffee every other day.....i do them all.
6. I try and lose contact with that particular person, i avoid their circles and even lose their numbers. I will unfriend them on fb and unfollow on IG and twitter. I try and get as disconnected from them as possible.
7. I cry some more
8. I treat myself to something nice, a handbag, a sexy pair of heels, a manicure.....anything to elevate my spirits
9. I hang out with the happy and careless crowd. At this time my confidence is always inside my shoe and such crowds uplift me
10. I will actually go out on a date with that cute boy who is so sweet and has been pestering me for ages. I need the compliments and a good time. I need someone to remind me how great i am
11. A good lipstick, a nice pair of sunglasses or just glasses, good hair......this makes everything much easier.
12. I take time to reflect and think things out, this includes accepting that we have broken up......and that there are millions of single men around the globe :)
13. I cry again and try not to feel sorry for myself. :)
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